Motherhood and self-love

Motherhood is an amazing and wonderful experience, but it can be challenging at the same time.
Motherhood is one of the toughest jobs in the world.

When you are a mother, you cannot take a break and you don’t even get paid 😀
Many women around the world are expected to bounce back immediately after pregnancy, comparing them to other women who snapped back immediately after giving birth.

People don’t understand that all women are not the same.
When I had my second child, it was a difficult time for me because i had an emergency c-section delivery (story for another day), and i could not move around the way i did when i had my first child. Some people could not understand that i had to take care of a newborn ( who never accepted being bottle-fed) and a 17 months old toddler.
These people made things worse when they started calling me a fat woman. They expected me to have a toned and terrific body within weeks of giving birth. It was so depressing for me………these people will just open their mouth and say “ Bukky see how you are fat, you need to reduce the amount of food you are eating” As if they lived with me mtcheew. They didn’t know what i was going through, or the challenges i was facing as a mom of two babies, who just had a traumatic unplanned c-section delivery. I started hating my body, i lost confidence in myself, i felt ugly, and i never wanted to look at the mirror. My family members didn’t notice what was going on with me because i never wanted to share my problems with anyone, not even with my husband because he was always telling me i am beautiful and i wasn’t fat. I didn’t believe him because i thought he was saying those words to me just because i am his wife.
With the help of some inspirational teachings and reading so many articles about self-appreciation, i started to regain my self-confidence and self-esteem. I said to myself “ Bukola, you are beautiful no matter what”. I started working out because of me and not because someone called me fat. I was aiming to live a healthier life, and lose some kilos for myself and not for anyone else. It wasn’t easy!!! Determination is the key.
When i started to lose weight “nko”? Some people started saying you are looking hungry Bukola, stop losing weight. 😀 😀 There are still parts of my body i don’t really like, like my arms and tummy, but i have embraced the transformational changes in my post partum body; and i am enjoying how curvy i am.
People will always complain if you are skinny, chubby or whatsoever. Just love yourself no matter what size you are. Self Love is fundamental and that doesn’t make you egocentric.
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23 Replies to “Motherhood and self-love”

  1. Hai ragione cara la gente parlerà sempre e pensa che non è facile per una donna dare la vita è poi ti trovi con le suocere che ti dicono sempre che sei ingrassata . Io sto bene così e amo il mio corpo. Mamma di due figli

  2. You are beautiful and strong and intelligent. Self confidence is one of the key ingredients in attaining success though others words might affect us directly or indirectly. Thank God you regained yourself confidence. Nice article…

  3. You are beautiful just the way you are!
    I wish people know the damage their words do. They’d say way less…. if only they knew. I honestly wonder why one’s weight is a community concern… everyone notices and suddenly becomes an expert *rolling my eyes*
    Thanks for sharing this 🙂

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