The power of building a positive self-esteem in your child’s early life
You don’t need anybody to tell you who you are. You are what you are.
And that’s tea!
When I was in Elementary School, my teacher asked me what career I wanted to pursue when I grew up.
I told him I wanted to become a Doctor! 😊
Doctors are amazing! They get to save lives, administer drugs and look super cool in their white pressed lab coats. The only problem was – I didn’t want to be a Doctor.
I only said that just because Anu, my classmate had said the same thing a few minutes ago.
Something kept telling me not to say I wanted to become an Entertainer and a Story Writer. Because I knew that at my very young age, they weren’t considered professions. They’d all probably laugh at me.
I loved singing. I still do. I secretly made comics with my exercise books and my sister would help me sell them in school because I was too shy to sell them myself. We used the money we earned to buy Tasty Time (Nigerian Ice Lolly)😁.
Back then, I was in the school choir group, drama group, debate club, cultural dance group, and the dancing club. I don’t understand how I was able to participate in all these numerous activities😆. I wanted to be everywhere. I was even in the fashion parade group. That was so ME😂.
I continued my comic writing till my Junior Secondary schools days. But I had to be “bound and determined” with my life. I had to stop the “childish dream” and stop the “hobby”, as they were called, that I’d created for myself in years. I had to “grow up”.
I never attended any type of music school or singing lessons even though I wish I did. I wanted to learn to play the keyboard, but my parents couldn’t afford the lessons. Or maybe they didn’t understand how much I loved music and anything that had to do with entertainment.
My dad made my sister and I join the church choir when I was 9 years old. Although, my sister was not interested in singing.
At first, I was happy about joining the choir, but the older choristers never paid attention to us. We were just there to learn new songs. Most times I felt invisible. The music director never gave us any type of training.
During extracurricular activities in Elementary School, some teachers told me I wasn’t good enough, especially in the things I loved the most. I remember vividly how I felt in the school choir group when I was told I had the voice of a frog☹. Even though that didn’t stop me from singing in the school and church choir, deep down in my mind, I still believed I wasn’t good enough.
I grew up with the mindset that the only recognised professions were in Medicine, Law, Engineering, Banking, Aviation, and Architecture. Any other job was not considered prestigious in my society.
As I grew older, I began to lose passion for the things I loved and struggled all most all of my adult life with low-self esteem because I felt I wasn’t good at anything.
When I got to University, I changed my course of study more than twice because I simply didn’t understand what I wanted. Later along the line, I found and took an online course that I loved but still felt discontentment after a few years because I was never able to do what I really wanted to do from the start.
Now, however, I’m going back at it. I’m pursuing and rekindling the flames of all of those interests I once loved. Even if it means starting from Ground Zero.
Self-esteem is important because it involves self-satisfaction. It’s a complete awareness of one’s value and trust in one’s ability to perform a certain duty.
One of the most common factors that make people structure a negative idea of themselves are formed in early childhood because a child is easily moulded and manipulated. Encourage them young!
We need to be careful with the way we raise our children, we need to filter the types of voices that they hear as they grow and the influences around them.
If a child grows up believing they aren’t good enough, they’ll spend their entire lives struggling with low self-esteem. Even if they get over low self-esteem, there will still be little elements of doubt in their minds.
Every person has a purpose and their lives are set up in the trajectory of their interests. Do not ever speak down on anyone. Young or old. Let them/help them or encourage them to hone their skills!
Help someone around you today believe in themselves. The power of will and determination cannot be underestimated. And the good thing is that it can be increased. A simple word of encouragement will do. It’ll go a long way. You’re enough. You’re good enough.
I’m good enough.
Thanks for reading. xoxo