32 Replies to “The power of building a positive self-esteem in your child’s early life”

  1. Such a great post! Growing up I wanted to do a lot of stuff, too, but my mom would always point out the negative sides of it so I didn’t do it. Now that I’m older I wish she would have let me do more because I have low self-esteem and I feel that I missed out on a lot.

    1. Thank you so much for reading Michelle. Sometimes parents think they know better, but they need to allow their children to explore and do what they love. It’s never too late to do what you love. <3

  2. Wonderful post Bukola! Life and death are in the power of the tongue. Our words can have a huge impact on our lives and the lives of others. We should encourage others as much as possible, especially our youth.

    I always wanted to play the piano too but ended up in the chorus and playing the violin. My parents did buy me a keyboard in junior high school. But I never took lessons. I have a piano because my daughter took piano lessons for seven years. I guess I should get started practicing. 😂

    1. 😂😂 thank you so much for reading big sister, and you are absolutely right. Life and death are in the power of the tongue. Sometimes people forget how their words can have a positive or negative impact on others. Thanks for your contribution ❤❤

  3. Lol! Tasty time was so good. It was key to surviving the walk home after school on sunny days. I agree with you, we need to show interest in whatever our children show interest in and stop trying to force our interests on them. They have dreams too, let them dream.. the earlier we start nurturing their dreams, the more confident they will become in whatever career path they choose. Good read!

  4. Wow. Such a great one, love this – “I am good enough!”.

    It took me a long trail to before I found meaning and link to my purpose in my now field. I went from wanting to be a doctor to a pharmacist to a biochemist and finally to the course I was offered which I accepted. 😂

    God bless my family. They were always there to guide me in the right direction too.

    Thanks for sharing this. ❤

  5. Self esteem is something I have struggled with my entire life, not feeling good or worthy enough. As we talked many times before people associate self esteem with looks. Not true. It definitely start when you are a child. You childhood sets your foundation for life. That’s why I always tell my daughter she’s more than enough. We all have a purpose and you are right we are all good enough. Thank you for sharing .. Sending love ❤️ to you from the States

  6. I really love this post! I needed something to encourage me this moment and u made it! 💪🏾
    (Ephesians 2:10) we all have a purpose in life but sometimes I feel confuse because I love doing many things but what I love most is cooking 🍳 and make up 💄
    I pray to be a good mother to my kids and help them archive their dreams! Thanks sis Bukola

  7. I relate so much to what you wrote, and I agree with every single word of this post. What I can add is that it’s never too late to learn to take up a musical instrument or singing 😀 Starting from myself and looking at some of the adult students we have in our music school (or online school), I am sure you can do it no matter your age, and still have great fun…. Maybe we will not become great concert players, but for sure we are having a great time playing! The same applies to any hobby or passion one might have, of course 😀

  8. Great write-up Bukola! Its saddening to know how people bring others down through their words. Its wrong to tell a child that he or she is not good enough because he or she is not good in one thing – that child must be good in other things. Thanks for sharing your experience. Its a reminder to us all to mind the way we talk to others when they can’t do something well beginning with our kids.

  9. This is such a thoughtful and instructive post and the anecdote drove home the essence. So true, while the low self-esteem syndrome can be acquired via many ways, it’s easily acquired by nurture. Many of us grew up doing what we didn’t want to because our parents (and the society at large) made us look stupid doing what we loved. Interestingly, this pattern has a far-reaching effect on the way we relate with life and people afterwards.

    We all need a good dose of self esteem. We are good enough.

  10. Bukola, thank you for sharing this post. I enjoyed it and I can so relate to it. Growing up, I wanted to become a Pediatrician but then I wanted to become a nurse. When I got into university, I wanted to pursue Social Work but because of family, I didn’t pursue it. Social workers don’t get paid much and I saw as a young child how my parents worked so hard trying to make ends meet. So I had this fear of constant thought that life is a struggle and I didn’t want to pursue a career that didn’t pay well. Money isn’t everything but we need money to do certain things. I ended up pursuing Public Health with a certificate in Child Advocacy. Though I don’t regret pursuing that degree, it been hard finding a job. I currently work at a department store yet still in search of a better job. At the same time, looking into schools for Social Work. I ran away from this career but God had a way of me crossing paths with people who automatically will mention “Have you considered pursuing Social Work?” It’s been a journey but just keeping the faith and doing my part with the search. It’s not easy but with God, all things are possible. Some days the tears fall but I rise again by God’s grace. I’m grateful for the post. God bless you 🙏🏿

    1. Oh Karen💕 I have a diploma in social science! And I would say I didn’t regret going for the course. Many times we think about the financial aspect of it too. And maybe that’s why our parents force us to study courses they assume will earn us money. I believe that if your purpose in life is to be a social worker God will make a way for you, and also supply all your needs.
      May God make your path straight and also make all your dreams come true. Thank you so much for reading and also for your contribution😘❤

      1. Good evening Bukola. Thank you so much for your advice and encouragement. Indeed, God knows best and when we heed to His instructions, things will surely fall in pleasant places for us. God bless you and may God straighten every path for you too. Stay Blessed & Lovely 😊🌻

  11. This was such a beautiful article. It put a smile on my face to read how you are finally fulfilling YOUR grownup dreams. Your girls hit the lucky parent lottery! 🍀🍀 – Suzana Barton

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